I have posed a question in my tittle block premised on the assertion that during the first years of sexual awareness through late teen arousal is at it’s most unbidden, coercive, humiliating and painful. I am aware that the human response to the sex drive in it’s first and early manifestation is significantly and occasionally absurdly diverse. I nontheless assert that the response to the undeniable impulse universally arouses the hateful emotions enumerated in the tittle and I doubt there are any serious scholars of human sexuality who will dispute it. GENERALLY this quartet of abusive emotions dissipates on the consumation of two or three really climaxing and intimate sexual experiences, but there are those who will choose to absolutely eschew sexual activity during this period, usually those of near poverty level social resources who have REAL talent and have been informed of it by both respected elders and personal victory experiences. This choice by potential sociotal champions and leaders is NOT misogynistic or the effect of religious or cultural suppression fetish but a real RATIONAL discipline rooted in a real knowledge of their own financial resources and the likely penalties for sexual indulgence of ANY sort during this vulnerable period of their lives. If they hold to it they win big. And they are quite realistic in assuming that the later sexual activity will not be any less gratifying than what is for them is premature and can generally justify said forebearence to their peer group. Anybody who doesn’t accept it is generally frozen out of the peer group with the wholesale aquiesence and aid of those who do. Beat it dick.

There can be a difficulty when the celibate who pronounces himself ready for sex AND has attained a truly spectacular professional standing starts interviewing around for lovers. On the one hand potential lovers who walk into the room where he is watching for incipient arousal to mutually re-enforce can be taken aback by the untrammeled beauty of the man, his having never indulged himself of the necessarily ephemiral intimacy of a short term affair. Sex with multiple partners DOES cheapen the intimacy of the act, and for some the emotional element has teh ity